Forgiveness and Emotional Healing

This is a long post that I put on another person’s blog that I should have put on my own with a link. Please excuse me while I am still learning.

Many people need emotional healing. Even believers who have forgiven others still have not experienced healing. There are several Bible passages that I would like to point out as markers on a path to healing. Having lived long enough to experience several deep wounds, I realize that healing can be a long drawn-out process. Sometimes it can take years, but God’s desire for us is healing. Not once did Jesus refuse to heal anyone.

First is the Lord’s Prayer at Matthew 6:9-15 (AKJV)

After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. 10 Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. 11 Give us this day our daily bread. 12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. 13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen. 14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 but if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

People have a hard time forgiving because they think forgiveness is a feeling, but it’s not. Here are a couple of references, among many, about forgiving that are helpful. One is the parable of the king who forgave a man his considerable debt (Mat. 18:23-35). But the man forgiven of his debt then went out and found a very poor man who owed him a very small debt and had him put in prison until he paid the small debt. Forgiveness is God’s heart. He forgives us all we owe and He wants us to forgive others just as freely as we have been forgiven.

            1 Peter 3:9 (AMP)

9 and never return evil for evil or insult for insult [avoid scolding, berating, and any kind of abuse], but on the contrary, give a blessing [pray for one anothers’ well-being, contentment, and protection]; for you have been called for this very purpose, that you might inherit a blessing [from God that brings well-being, happiness, and protection].

Romans 12:19 (AMP)

Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for God’s wrath [and His judicial righteousness]; for it is written [in Scripture], “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.

After forgiving someone, you still have the wound, and it will last as long as you live if you don’t know to ask the Lord to heal it. Let’s look at Isaiah 53:3-6.

Isaiah 53:3-6 (AMP)

3 He was despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and pain and acquainted with grief; And like One from whom men hide their faces. He was despised, and we did not appreciate His worth or esteem Him. 4 But [in fact] He has borne our griefs, And He has carried our sorrows and pains; Yet we [ignorantly] assumed that He was stricken, Struck down by God and degraded and humiliated [by Him]. 5 But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was crushed for our wickedness [our sin, our injustice, our wrongdoing]; The punishment [required] for our well-being fell on Him, And by His stripes (wounds) we are healed. 6 All of us like sheep have gone astray, We have turned, each one, to his own way; But the LORD has caused the wickedness of us all [our sin, our injustice, our wrongdoing] To fall on Him [instead of us].

According to Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance “deliver, save” is Feminine of a derivative of soter as (properly, abstract) noun; rescue or safety (physically or morally) — deliver, health, salvation, save, saving.

Phonetic Spelling: sode’-zo

Parts of Speech: Verb

Definition: to save, keep safe and sound, to rescue from danger or destruction

to save one (from injury or peril)

            to save a suffering one (from perishing), i.e. one suffering from disease, to make well, heal, restore to health

to preserve one who is in danger of destruction, to save or rescue

to save in the technical biblical sense

negatively 1b: to deliver from the penalties of the Messianic judgment

to save from the evils which obstruct the reception of the Messianic deliverance

I’ve taken the trouble to be as clear as possible with documentation so that your faith can be in God’s Word rather than my words.

We hear about “by His stripes we are healed” but I don’t think I’ve ever heard a teaching about emotional healing based on Isaiah 53 where Isaiah says He took our griefs and sorrows. If one is true, so is the other. So when I was begging the Father to heal my emotional wounds, this phrase came to mind and I snatched it quickly. Because it is an aspect of salvation it depends only on one’s obedience to the conditions of confessing and forsaking one’s sins and iniquities – then forgiving others as we are so freely forgiven.

For example, I have forgiven the person who said malicious things about me, but I still feel the wound of being devalued and betrayed. So I come before the Father and tell Him how that person is forgiven but I want Him to heal the sense of being devalued and betrayed. He willingly takes that hurt. If the hurt doesn’t go away, then check your heart for complete forgiveness – it’s not about that other person, it’s about you. Then go back to Father and ask again for the hurt to be healed. There is no shame in repetition. Repeat this request as many times as necessary, until you are free of the associated pain. Do this for each painful memory and be patient with yourself in gaining the emotional healing Father God has promised through the suffering of His Son.

There is another aspect of healing from sexual sins and/or violation that is overlooked very often. That is the breaking of soul ties with the individual you were involved with. Again it is done simply. Ask Father God to forgive you for your part in the sin and then ask Him to break the soul tie. Ask Him to cauterize both ends of the broken bond with His precious blood, and the bondage is broken.



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